The beautiful thing about the lessons I’ve learned in my 14 years as a Birthing From Within mentor is that they are equally applicable to life as to birth or parenting preparation. When parents come to my workshops, they are often seeking a plan, a program, an itemized list of what they should and should not do in labor, in breastfeeding, in parenting. Of course, if such a clear-cut list existed it would be wonderful, wouldn’t it? We would just follow it and never make mistakes, always have the right answers, and essentially have perfect births and be perfect parents!
Alas, the day of birth is just another day, however important it may be for us. There is no miracle pill to make that one day (or two, however the birth may go) exempt from the rules of life. As much as it may frustrate us, there is no formula, no single answer to how things will go, no perfect birth. The same goes for parenting, much to the woe of every parent in existence. If only children-or life for that matter!-came with a failproof instruction manual! But no, the primary lesson I aim for the parents in my workshops to walk away with is that we do not have complete control (and neither do the professionals we seek assistance from), we will not make all the “right” choices and we will not be perfect parents. However we can know ourselves and what is important to us, despite what we may be told we should do or believe or choose. We can determine our family morals and philosophy and act accordingly, even when some people disagree with our choices. We can set our intention and do the next best thing in every moment.
When it comes to welcoming the new year, and it’s requisite pledges and resolutions, I use a similar approach. As we come into the new year there is often a lot of pull, from outside and from within ourselves, to make new year’s resolutions or pledges. Perhaps letting go of a “bad” habit such as smoking or overwork; or inviting in a new “good” habit such as a new diet or exercise program or a new way of communicating or being with our family members. Sometimes the idea of changing or doing something new can be inspiring and give us energy to do something that is really calling to us or to let something go that is no longer serving us. At the same time, the pressure to begin something new or to let something go at the new year can actually cause more overwhelm than inspiriation and sometimes lead to very high expectations of ourselves as people or as parents.
So while considering the new year and what to invite in and what to let go of, I began with the question I ask parents in our childbirth preparation series: how do I know? How do I know to invite something in or let something go? How do I know that this will serve me now, in this moment, in this year? Is it something that I feel I should be doing or is it something that is truly calling to me? It can be very easy to get lost in the “shoulds” and the “musts” of daily life. We should reach a certain level of fitenss, we should have a certain hobby, we shouldn’t have x bad habit, or whatever it is that is going on in our minds that we should or should not be doing. This voice of the internal Judge proclaiming what should and should not be can overwhelm our instinctive sense of what is needed in the moment and put quite a lot of pressure on us to do something that may not be needed now, or to do it in a way that does not nourish us.
Now after having a few weeks of the new year to explore your thoughts and desires on what to begin and what to leave behind, I invite you to ask yourself the same question: how do you know to do this? How do you know this is the right task at the right time? Sometimes I find the answer to be: it isn’t. If this is the case for you with any one of your resolutions, congratulations! You can let this pledge or resolution go to make room for the ones you are actually dedicated to.
Once you have determined the goal or goals you feel called to for this year, I urge you to do one more thing: determine the first step in reaching this goal. Very often when we are making new years resolutions we can let go of that first small step that needs to happen and we simply imagine the final result. Of course, the final result is very grand and very beautiful and very perfect and usually not something we can attain in the very first week that we begin moving toward our new goal. Yet because of having this ideal of what it looks like to have reached our goal, and only this ideal, there can be very high expectations very early on of what it should look like and how it should be RIGHT NOW. When we are not able to meet those expectations in the desired amount of time then it can be very easy to let go of those resolutions, those intetnions to change.
Once you are quite certain of what your are inviting or leting go of, ask your self, what is that first step? Bear in mind that that first step may be quite small and unglamorous. The first step may be research. The first step may be marking space your calendar to ensure you have time set aside for pursuing this goal. The first step may simply be signing up for a new class, trying out a new hobby, making a doctor’s appointment or choosing a small part of that “bad” habit to let go of first. It may be a very small step. It is actually those very small steps that are the most important for creating change in our lives. Without the small steps, the big ones cannot be reached. However much we would like to, we cant just fly over to our beautiful hilltop of the dreams that we envision. It is a climb that begins with one small step. So Im curious, what is your one small step as you begin freshly this new year?
Congratulations on the upcoming birth of your child! As expectant parents, you are likely overwhelmed with the many thoughts, feelings and choices that come with preparing for a new child. Besides the obvious hospital and careprovider selection, there are also a range of products and services aimed at easing the time of pregnancy, birth and postpartum. While researching your birth options, you may have come across the many doulas offering their services and wonder how to choose the right doula for you.
Choosing a doula is similar to choosing a doctor or a midwife. It is important to have in mind the kind of birth support you prefer, and ask questions accordingly. Are you intending a vaginal birth or a cesarean birth? Will your partner or another friend or family member be present, or will you be on your own? Will you feel more confident with a doula who has given birth before, or is the connection you form with your doula at the first meeting equally important? What kind of support or services do you imagine receiving from your doula? Are there any religious or spiritual considerations you want tended to? How important is a doula’s level of experience? Would you prefer a more directive doula or one who primarily supports you in moving with your own flow?
As you go about interviewing your potential doula, be sure to ask the following 4 questions:
1. What kind of training has your doula had?
Once you have a reasonably clear idea of what kind of support you are seeking, start with asking friends and looking online. There are many doula training programs with varying degrees of length, depth of training and student accountability. When looking online and when interviewing potential doulas, look carefully at the training length and content, the training program’s philosophy and code of ethics, requirements of certification and the experience level of the course organizers. Consider the following questions as you conduct your research:
· Is there a clear code of conduct and guidlelines for the role of the doula?
· Is the training in line with your birth philosophy?
· Does the training require an internship period?
· Is there hands-on training for massage and other comfort measures?
· Is positive or non-violent communication a part of the training (this is very important for your doula’s ability to interract in a positive manner with your birth team)?
· Is there a responsible party to which you can lodge complaints or express concerns?
2. What is your doula’s personal philosophy?
While training is very important, it is not everything. There are many different doulas trained in many different environments, and while doulas from a particular training may possess certain common skill sets and philosophies, each doula has her own method of working with families as well as her own personal philosphy. You will be spending some of your most intimate moments with this person. Be sure that you feel comfortable with your doula’s philosphy and manner of working. Your doula’s language and touch should make you feel comfortable and confident. Just as when choosing a doctor or midwife, no matter the credentials or referrals, feeling comfortable with your doula is invaluable in relaxing into your birth experience, whatever method of birth you choose. Listen to your instincts!
3. What is your doula’s level of experience?
If you are looking for an experienced doula to support you, be sure to ask about your doula’s birth experiences. Asking open ended questions gives the doula an opportunity to explain how she works with parents in varying situations-just do not expect detailed birth stories as this should be against your doula’s code of ethics!
Consider the following questions as you interview your doula:
· If you have a unique birth situation, how important would it be for your doula to have experience supporting other parents in this situation?
· How does your doula cope with challenging birth situations, changes in birth plans and unexpected outcomes?
· Are there any birth methods or interventions which your doula finds problematic?
· If you choose or require a birth method or intervention which your doula does not typically prefer, how will your doula continue to support you?
Perhaps because of financial considerations or because you connect well with a particular doula, experience level may not be of concern to you. If you choose to work with a doula-in-training, be sure to understand that while she is providing you with a valuable support service, you will also be providing her with an important learning experience. Be sure to give your doula honest feedback about her support during your birth.
4. What services does your doula provide and what are the terms of those services?
Even if you get along with a doula well and are satisfied with her education and level of experience, you will want to be sure you are also happy with the services she provides and the terms of those services. The basic services most doulas provide are a minimum of two prenatal meetings; being on-call for two weeks before and after your estimated due date; arriving as soon as possible after you request her at the beginning of labor; remaining throughout the labor until the baby is successfully breastfeeding or everyone is ready for a rest – usually 1-2 hours after the birth; a back-up doula for unforseen circumstances or very long labors and one postpartum visit either at home or in the hospital.
It is important to agree upon your doula’s terms of service, the cost for the service and the method of payment in advance. I strongly recommend a written contract between parents and doula just to ensure that everyone is clear on costs and expectations for care. These are frustrating topics to have misunderstandings about at a time when you should be focusing on your new baby.
Some doulas are also trained in other services such as prenatal yoga or pilates, homeopathy, aromatherapy, massage, infant massage, optimal fetal positioning, baby wearing or lactation consultation. If you are interested in your doula’s other services, understand that there will likely be an extra fee and / or support schedule so be sure to discuss these topics separately from her regular birth doula services.
Doulas can provide invaluable support for new and expectant parents. As with interviewing any professional, it is important to be clear about your own needs and desires and find a doula who meets these as closely as possible. To assist you in your search, you can find a list of İçsel Doğum doulas-in-training and certified doulas on our website. Wishing you and your family a healthy and satisfying birth experience.
I mentioned last month that we, as İçsel Doğum, have decided to assign monthly themes to focus the content of what we share with you all. This month, the focus is gratitude. Gratitude seemed like a wonderful topic when I first thought it up. Such an easy topic, and so uplifting! However I am realizing just how challenging it can sometimes be to feel and express gratitude, to invite it into our daily lives. Time constraints, worries, pressure to get everything done can often leave little time for feeling gratitude. Sometimes we may even wonder why it’s important to feel gratitude, or we may just gloss over the idea of gratitude in an effort to placate that inner (or outer) voice that says “you should be grateful!”. I am sure we all have habits and belief patterns which can interfere with our ability to truly feel gratitude. I am simply going to share a bit of my own patterns and practices in the hope that it may serve you.
When I dig deeply beneath all of the possible things that can keep me from feeling gratitude, the main barrier I have found is the frequently surfacing belief that I make my own destiny, I carve out my place in the world, I am responsible for all that I have or do not have, good and bad. This kind of belief pattern is very common in the modern world of self-made men and women working to spearhead projects, innovate technology and explore new frontiers of all kinds. The increasing level of control modern technology allows over nature, our bodies, our lives lends itself well to this belief. In my work, I see this mindset reflected in both childbirth preparation class philosophies and in new and expectant parents themselves: a course of action is settled on and, as if it can be realized by sheer will and determined intent, there is a steady march toward whatever outcome the parents have decided is the appropriate one. This is a very appealing idea, and I have certainly found myself in this mindset a time or two as a parent! However, while our mindset and our will can affect much of the outcome of our birth and parenting experience, it cannot control all of it. There are factors outside of our control, there is luck, or grace or chance involved in any dealings of life and death. As much as we like to feel we are, we are not in complete control of our lives.
My family recently held our annual ceremony honoring our beloveds who are no longer with us. We do this each year around this time. Every year is a little bit different, depending on our needs and focus for that year, but the central theme is the same. There are always stories about those who have passed, sometimes sadness, sometimes tears, and always gratitude for what each person has given us. It may seem strange at first glance to think of gratitude in connection to loss. However in my personal experience, it is precisely when loss is experienced that I become most awake to what I still have. These are the times I feel gratitude keenly. I actually enjoy sitting in cemetaries because it helps me to realize the impermanence of the life I have created, of what I have been blessed with. It is when I sit with the dead that I feel true gratitude for living.
For this reason, it has always made intuitive sense to me that in my culture the month for honoring the dead is followed by the month of Thanksgiving. Honoring the losses in my life and in the world leaves me humble, vulnerable and open to feeling gratitude for all that I still have. In this way, gratitude is, for me, a two-fold process: first acknowledging losses and then contemplating the blessings. Because becoming mothers and fathers often involves a great deal of loss with regards to unrealized hopes and expectations, I feel that parenthood is a ripe opportunity for cultivating a practice of gratitude. Particularly in a culture that can expect perfection, both from parents and from children, the ability to express gratitude even when things are less than ideal is a powerful tool for coping and living vivaciously with less-than-perfect humans in a less-than-perfect world.
The way I try to bring this two-fold expression of gratitude into my daily life is by having a grief altar set up in my home, and by keeping a gratitude journal. A grief altar does not have to include religious intent, though it may if you wish. Mine consists of a shallow basket filled with a few objects which hold for me reminders of losses I am working to process. These losses may be personal or global.
My journal is a very plain, blank paged note-book. Sometimes I will just choose one topic I am grateful for and list the specific reasons for my gratitude. Sometimes I will feel like doing a bit extra, and I will draw a tree with the object of my gratitude as the trunk and the specific reasons for my gratitude on the leaves. I may not sit with the altar or the journal daily, but the times I do provide a great deal of relief, peace and contentment.
There actually are studies done on the benefits of a regular gratitude practice. Feeling gratitude on a regular basis actually changes brain chemistry, increasing dopamine, which is important for both emotional and neurological health. Especially focusing on one particular person, event or thing and why you are grateful for it has been shown to be more effective than making a general list of the many things you are grateful for. Writing down your gratitude has also been shown to create more positive responses than simply thinking about it. The wonderful news is, the more one feels grateful, the greater the increase in positive brain changes. As mothers in particular are increasingly diagnosed with depression, anxiety and exhaustion, any positive changes in brain chemistry are more than welcome.
What are you grateful for? What challenges do you find in feeling gratitude? What helps you connect with your feelings of gratitude? We’d love to hear about your challenges and your gratitude practices!
We are very excited about a new “school” year starting here at İçsel Doğum. We have new trainings starting up, and some exciting new developments waiting in the wings. This past year has been one of a lot of reflection and not a lot of out-put, at least for me. I feel like I have been sitting in silence with the feeeling of a pending transition, without even being sure what this transition is from or into! You may have felt something similar during pregnancy or while parenting. It is clear during pregnancy that things are changing , but as mothers and fathers, we can never be sure exactly what that change is going to bring. And for most of us, the unknown can be a pretty scary place!
At our yearly Ekip İnzivası, we decided to try out a new thing with monthly themes to help give us some form to the content we share with you. For me, growing up in the US, October was all about playfully facing fear. Halloween comes at the end of October, and the holiday as it was celebrated in my childhood was not so much about witches but about leaving ordinary reality for a time. It was about having fun being terrified and terrifying eachother as we faced all the scary monsters and things that go “bump” in the night. In reality, though many us may not have been aware, it was about facing the unknown.
Fear of childbirth or breastfeeding not going as planned, fear of not being a good enough parent, fear of pain or of loosing control are all common concerns for new parents. In our current culture, fear is something that is usually avoided, suppressed, or glossed over in childbirth preparation. We often think that if we don’t give energy to our fearful thoughts that we will prevent our fears from manifesting. While it is true that dwelling on fear is often stressful and counterproductive, so is attempting to ignore it completely. Fear is such a powerful emotion, and trying to ignore it can often have equally powerful and possibly unwished for effects, such as delaying labor, affecting milk supply, causing anger and stress in our relationships and influencing our decisions.
Fear is typically ignited when we are faced with the unknown. Despite knowing so much about the physical processes of pregnancy, birth, human milk production and supporting the growth of new little humans, there are still aspects of these miraculous functions which will always remain in the realm of the unknown. So it is in our best interest as parents to learn ways of coping with the fear that comes with entering this “other” realm. Fear has so much to teach us about the ways in which we can grow, about our weaknesses, vulnerabilities, needs and expectations.
So this month we will be focusing how we can enter into the unkown and remaining intact, if not unchanged. We look forward to hearing your questions as stories as we face our fears together!
Touch is one of the most sacred and healing gifts one human being can give to another. Touch has been renowned for its healing power for thousands of years, and ancient methods of touch therapy have been in practice across the globe for millennia. Although countries like Thailand, China, Japan and India consider regular massage to be a normal part of maintaining one’s health, it is primarily seen in the modern western world as a luxury for the rich, or a series of therapies designed to help one recover from a specific injury. Most of us, however, can attest to the power of touch to ease our physical and emotional pains. A friend or loved one’s arm on our shoulder helps to ease our sadness in times of grief; fingers kneading our shoulder and neck ease the tensions of the day.
In pregnancy, the healing powers of touch become even more relevant, as the medications we may ordinarily take for back pain, neck pain, and headaches are unadvisable at this time. In some traditional cultures such as those of India and Mexico, massage is a regular part of maternity care, and pregnant women and babies are massaged as a matter of course. Dona Irene Soleto, a midwife from Morales, Mexico, begins each prenatal meeting with a neck and shoulder massage. As she releases the tension in the mother’s muscles, she releases tension in the mother’s mind, and the mother becomes free to discuss her worries and her concerns. The belly is also massaged, not only to discover the position and size of the baby, but also to promote elasticity of the skin, thereby reducing stretch marks. During birth, Dona Irene uses massage as one of her tools to help encourage good positioning of the baby, ease and speed labor, and help the mother open fully to avoid injuring herself. After birth, Dona Irene uses massage over many weeks to support the uterus and pelvic bones, to ease muscle pain, and to encourage bountiful a milk supply.
The stresses which modern women face today make massage an even more vital component to a healthy pregnancy. Increasingly common problems in our culture such as high blood pressure, muscle tension, poor blood circulation, and low energy become more pronounced, uncomfortable, and even dangerous in pregnancy. Emotional illnesses such as postpartum depression, which are non-existent among Dona Irene’s clients, are also becoming more prevalent. Because so many people today work in sedentary jobs, and the possibilities for active exercise are minimal, many women enter pregnancy with weak back and abdominal muscles. As the growth of the baby increases stress on these muscles and changes the mother’s center of balance, aches and pains that did not exist before can now become quite uncomfortable.
Regular massage therapy can help alleviate these problems. Massage increases blood circulation, thereby reducing edema, muscle cramping and tension and stretch marks. The hormones released in one’s body while receiving massage reduce blood pressure and emotional tension. Birth partners (be it husbands, mothers, sisters, friends, a nurse or a trained professional) who massage women during labor actively help the mother cope with pain. Breastfeeding, postpartum recovery and weight loss are all supported by massage. The benefits may extend even further. Women who receive massage during pregnancy are more likely to massage their own babies, thus passing the benefits of healing touch onto the next generation.
As modern western culture becomes more aware of the benefits of regular massage therapy, the benefits to pregnant and birthing women and their babies has not gone unnoticed. In the United States, an entire profession of pregnancy massage therapists has developed and many of these therapists work in close contact with doctors, midwives and other health specialists to provide comprehensive care for pregnant families.
So, pamper yourself! You will be contributing to your healthy pregnancy, birth and postpartum!
NOTE: In cultures which practice massage on pregnant women, it is understood that massage at this time is different from massage at other times in a woman’s life. The practioner must be educated and aware of each woman’s condition and must know which methods and points are beneficial and harmful for pregnant women. When you are searching for a massage therapist during your pregnancy, be sure to find out the practitioners’ qualifications. If you are experiencing any problems with your pregnancy, be sure to get your doctor’s approval and to inform your therapist before proceeding.
The idea of doulas is at once very old and very new. The word “doula” comes from the Greek, meaning “female servant or slave”. It’s modern usage conveys the idea of a trained or experienced woman (friend, relative, or health worker) who supports a birthing woman and her family physically, emotionally, and informationally throughout the childbearing year. Women have been helping women give birth perhaps since the very beginning. Whales, coyotes and pygmy chimpanzees are just a few examples from the animal world whose female members help one another during birth. In some current cultures, birth is a community event which all the women attend to celebrate and support the laboring mother. One of my favorite examples of this is an anecdote told by the oriental dancer Morocco, who was able to witness a birth in a traditional community in the country of Morocco. She describes a tent containing a circle of women dancing around the birthing mother, whose only signs of being in labor were sweat on her forehead and the occasional grunt while pushing. The women were dancing to remind the mother to move to help the baby out, to remind her of her own birth, to initiate the mother into motherhood.
The evolution of our collective birth culture is very interesting to evaluate. Not so long ago, the majority of the world’s births took place at home. The majority of those births were attended by trained or untrained midwives and other female supporters. Very quickly—at lightening speed in fact—birth at home has become the anomaly and hospital birth the standard entrance into the world for most children, especially in developed countries. Hospital birth has helped save the lives of many babies and mothers who would otherwise have been injured or worse in the home situation, and for this we must be grateful. However, because the primary function of a hospital is to treat illness and save lives, pregnancy and childbirth in the hospital has come to be regarded as a sickness rather than a natural physiologic event. It can sometimes happen even in normally progressing pregnancies, that pregnancy and birth are seen as a highly dangerous processes requiring many routine tests and interventions to be safe. This intention often brings with it an aura of fear or urgency into the experience of pregnancy and birth, sometimes even making it difficult for women to give birth under their own power. Why is this? The answer lies in our magnificently orchestrated hormones.
At the onset of labor, the hormone oxytocin is released, telling the uterus to contract and open the cervix. Oxytocin is also called the “hormone of love”, because it is also present in large quantities when eating a good meal, during breastfeeding, and most importantly, during orgasm. This gives us a clue as to why, for some women, birth is not frightening or painful, but joyful and ecstatic—under the right circumstances.
It is still not entirely understood exactly how the body receives the signal to release oxytocin, but it has recently been discovered that a hormone released by the mature baby’s lungs passes through the placenta, setting labor into motion. Along with the hormone oxytocin, endorphins are also released. These two hormones increase in relation to one another, and to signals in the body, in a juicy hormonal dance. As oxytocin increases, the sensation of the contractions increases, and the body produces more endorphins to help the woman tolerate the rising intensity. Not only tolerate, but actually move into an altered state—into “laborland”. For those who have seen women in labor, the entrance into laborland is easily recognizeable. The laboring woman is deeply focused inward, has difficulty answering logical questions, and moves and makes noise instinctively.
Let’s consider an ancient woman, thousands and thousands of years ago, before doctors, before midwives even. How did that ancient woman know what to do and how to do it?
Using her instincts, what kind of location do you imagine this ancient woman would have chosen to give birth? Warm or cold? Dim or brightly lit? Crowded or quiet? Open or protected? What would happen to that ancient woman’s labor if she senses a threat, perhaps a vicious predator prowling about? What is happening in your body now just thinking about this scenario? Perhaps you’ve noticed a tensing of muscles, a surge of adrenaline, the urge to flee—fight or flight from the dangerous situation.
Now imagine for a moment the conditions under which oxytocin is present in large quantities. Imagine the environments in which the most oxytocin will be released. Under what conditions do you most enjoy a good meal, breastfeeding, or lovemaking? Now consider the typical hospital birth environment. How do the two birth environments compare, when looking from the perspective of optimal oxytocin release? Now we begin to understand why so many modern women have difficulty birthing their babies under their own power in the typical hosptial delivery room—everything in their environment is telling their bodies to flee, even when their minds have the best of intentions.
So what does all of this have to do with the doula? Doulas can help women to reclaim their birth spaces, even in the hospital. Many women expect that the nurse or midwife or their doctor will support them and guide them in birth, but the reality is that due to modern medical practices, most caregivers do not have the time to give women the attention they need during labor. Nurses and hospital midwives unfortunately have many women to care for at one time, as well as a lot of paperwork to attend to, often preventing them from doing much more than regular checks on baby and mom’s well-being. Because the doula is not concerned with the medical aspects of the birth process, she is free to give her love and attention soley to the birthing mother and her family. Doulas can make suggestions for transforming the birth space, making it more oxytocin-friendly. Doulas offer ideas for positions, remind mothers and fathers of useful breathing practices and massage techniques, and encourage mothers to move around. Doulas help redirect mother’s and father’s attention away from the “machine that goes ping” and back onto her body, her labor, their baby. Doulas can help protect the birth space, reducing the number of uncessary interruptions and interventions.
Some couples are concerned that a doula may usurp the father’s role at the birth, but it is actually quite the opposite. The father’s job is to provide the love and presence only he can give to the mother, while being witness to the birth of his child. Many fathers have difficulty helping their wives throught the tough parts of labor, simply because they have no experience in this arena. Doulas protect the father’s birth experience by aiding him in supporting the mother, relieving him of the intense pressure having to remember everything learned in labor class. Doulas encourage the mother and father throughout the labor, empowering them to birth their child in their own way, whatever that may be. As studies by Drs. Kennell and Klaus have shown, the simple presence of a caring, relaxed person in the labor room can have a dramatic impact on the energy and mood of the labor room. It has actually been shown in multiple studies that when doulas are present at a birth, there are fewer epidurals, fewer cesarean births, and on average 2-3 hour shorter labors. The statistics are so convincing that some insurance companies in the US have begun compensating for doula fees!
The beneficial impact of doulas continues into bonding and breastfeeding, the early postpartum period, and in marital satisfaction in the years following birth. Many families report less problematic breastfeeding experiences and more extended breastfeeding relationships than women who receive no such support during and after labor. Parents’ positive relationship with and understanding of their babies’ needs also increases. Because doulas support and normalize mothers’ postpartum experiences, incidences of postpartum blues and depression are fewer. A good doula actually fosters greater closeness and understanding between mother and father, and reports of increased marital satisfaction after birth are higher with families who are assisted by a doula.
Here in Turkey, and in much of Europe, the concept of a doula in the hospital is a new idea. However, there are doctors who are open to this very beneficial addition to the birth room. Hopefully the coming years will see a vast increase in support for birthing families, bringing into greater awareness what birth can be, what mothers and babies are capable of, and a joyous respect for the sanctity of the birth place.
Mothering the Mother: How a Doula Can Help You Have a Shorter, Easier and Healthier Birth, Marshall H. Klaus, M.D., John H. Kennell, M.D., and Phyllis H. Klaus, M.Ed., C.S.W.
The Birth Partner: Everything You Need to Know to Help a Woman Through Childbirth, Penny Simkin, P.T.
The Thinking Woman’s Guide to a Better Birth, Henci Goer